david foster wallace once said that “the important kind of freedom involves attention and awareness and discipline, and being able to truly care for other people and to sacrifice for them over and over in myriad petty, unsexy ways every day.” choose what to worship, and choose well. i have written and thought extensively on what i believe in, what i care about and how i wish to behave – there are not bad people, just bad choices – but i have never sat down and written it all down as my “Personal Manifesto of Interdependent Unfuckwithability in Life and Love”. let’s unpack. “Personal” because i am a rational, sentient human being, and i have the capacity and willingness to make choices and take responsibility for those; i am not simply the product of my circumstances. “Interdependent” because i don’t exist in a vacuum and to love at all you must exist in the unavoidable presence of another. “Unfuckwithability” because even though i exist and can only behave in response to others around me, i ultimately cannot control their behaviour, i can only control my behaviour, and i choose not to judge others for their choices. “In Life and Love” because while life is the irresistible and inescapable, slap-in-the-face reality that we confront day in and day out, love is the myriad ways in which we choose to fill this reality, to mold it into a sense of happiness and fulfilment. these choices form the thread that traces each wound on my body and each line across my forehead, and they speak of a life well lived and a love well spent.